Love, Actually and whether we can actually love it

On Tuesday, British Prime Minister Boris Johnson treated journalists and satirists alike to an early Christmas present with some fresh material recycled from Love, Actually.
For a campaign video, the politician made the unusual decision to re-enact the infamous doorstep scene between Mark (Andrew Lincoln) and Juliet (Keira Knightley) in Richard Curtisâs 2003 Christmas classic.
I thought Iâd stumbled over a spoof video but the âVote Conservative, actuallyâ homage is 100 per cent real.
It has been picked apart by political pundits and Twitter, but itâs also reignited debate around whether Curtisâs much-loved festive flick is worthy of our adoration.
I do remember being somewhat charmed by Love, Actually the first time I saw it â or at least, I didnât rush to the streets (or forums) in protest.
Maybe Iâd become resigned to my fate after too much Christmas ham or perhaps my judgment was a little clouded after that second cup of eggnog.
The after-glow didnât last long, however, and by my second viewing the film had definitely soured.
Letâs take Markâs hand-written address. For presumably the duration of his best friend Peterâs relationship with Juliet, Mark is a jerk to Juliet.
But because she loves Peter (Chiwetel Ejiofor) and Mark is his best friend, she puts up with it.
Juliet â played by Knightley when she was still 17, which is also a bit off-putting â later discovers that rather than video the coupleâs wedding, Mark actually took close-up zooms of her face. Riiiiight âŚ
He decides to put his own desire before his friendâs marriage and shows up at Julietâs house on Christmas Eve with a ghetto blaster and placard signs.
In a series of hand-written notes (one including cut-out magazine images of Kylie Minogue and fashion models), he confesses his âloveâ for her while Juliet silently listens in the doorframe.
He walks off into the snow, she kisses him, and, in a gesture I think Curtis intends to be âhonourableâ, he says âEnough nowâ.
So, the woman is at first silent but complicit, then when she shows some reaction is rejected. Itâs weird. Itâs uncomfortable. It hasnât stood the test of time.
When developing the scene, Curtis ran a few ideas by female co-workers to work out what was âromanticâ and what was âoff-puttingâ, he told Elle.
If this one made the cut, I donât like to think whatâs on the cutting floor.
The scene isnât just creepy, itâs dangerous.
In her wonderfully titled 2013 âI Rewatched Love, Actually and Am Here to Ruin It for All of Youâ feminist Lindy West addressed the filmmaker directly.
âThank you for telling a generation of men that their intrusiveness and obsessions are âromanticâ, and that women are secretly flattered no matter what their body language says,â she said.
Her article defines the movieâs central moral lesson as âthe less a woman talks, the more lovable she isâ.
Itâs a fabulously sweary review with West ultimately describing the famous scene as the âartistic low point of the 21st centuryâ.
While Love, Actually is a perennial on âBest Ofâ lists for Christmas and rom-com fans, itâs also fallen prey to the ravages of time â or more precisely, been scrutinised more closely with each repeat viewing.
Even Lincoln has changed his mind.
Six years ago, he called the scene âbeautifulâ and âmarvellousâ but by 2017 confessed to EW, âI kept saying to Richard [Curtis], âAre you sure Iâm not going to come off as a creepy stalker?ââ
Curtis had hindsight doubts: âRetroactively, Iâm aware that Andrewâs role was on the edge.â
How can we actually love Love, Actually?
To wilfully misquote creepy Mark, to me, itâs imperfect.








